I have a confession to make. My husband does not like my red lipstick. If you’re my best friend, mother or really anyone who has been reading my blog long enough, then you already know my response: I don’t care, I’m wearing it anyway.
I should back track a bit here. It’s not like my husband abhors red lips to the point where he can’t even look at me, rather he simply just does not prefer it over other colors I wear. He’s more of a neutrals guy who dislikes dark smokey eyes and dramatic lips. And since we’re opposites in every way, it’s no surprise that I love the very things he hates.
There’s lots of responses people have in this situation. Some simply stop wearing the item their partner doesn’t like. Others wear it less frequently. Many might be like me and just do it anyway. For me, it’s a pretty clear cut situation. I am who I am, I like what I like and I will wear what I want. I’ve pretty much been that way my entire life when it comes to just about everything.
My husband’s dislike of my red lipstick got me thinking about where the line is drawn when it comes to deciding what to drop and what to keep. To me, in a relationship it makes sense to compromise on larger issues like how to communicate and learning how to respect one another.
Compromises over makeup, whether it be a bright orange eyeshadow or a nude lip, aren’t up for discussion because they aren’t things that cause problems. Sure, from time to time, I may ask my husband which look he might prefer for an evening out, and I may even ask for his opinion on my eye makeup. But at no point would his like or dislike of a certain item deter me from wearing it.
Am I alone here? What do you do when your partner dislikes your makeup? Have you ever changed what you put on because he or she didn’t like it?