Picking and Choosing Blog Content

This week’s Friend Friday is all about picking and choosing blog content: Do I participate in Women’s Heart Health Month? Or go crazy and pick only 30 wardrobe items to wear for a month? The science behind what we choose to do and what we ignore. Included in this edition of Friday Finds if an update on my Wedding Craziness and some links that helped me be a less crazy bride-to-be.

With all the blogging events out there how do you determine which ones to participate in and which ones to avoid?

I joined Friend Friday (FBFF) early on in my blogging career because I wanted to make friends and be part of something. It was like arriving alone to a party that started, oh, about ten years ago, and saying, “Hey, I’m Courtney, want to be my friend?” I stuck with FBFF because it became a community, not just something I posted about on Fridays. I gravitate towards events that make me feel included in something. It’s also important to remember that any event you participate in may take away from your original content since it’s programmed to an extent. Unless you post every day, this may be a challenge to incorporate.

Be honest, have you ever jumped on the bandwagon of some blogging movement/event for the wrong reasons? How did that turn out?

My most notable bandwagon-jumping event was the first time I did 30×30 in November 2010 at the height of my blogger apathy. My initial reason to participate was, simply, “because all the cool kids are doing it.” I was ready to quit my blog at that point, which made for awkward timing to participate in 30×30. Needless to say, I did not post my outfits, though I did pick 30 pieces and remix them on my own, so it was beneficial to me personally.

How do you give your own flair to a blog event while still maintaining the general mission and purpose?

For 30×30, I decided to put my stamp on the challenge by posting makeup looks once a week instead of posting remixed outfits everyday. I also decided not to post everyday because my schedule allows me to post 3 to 4 times a week, and posting 7 times a week realistically wouldn’t work for me or my sanity. This tweak maintains the integrity of my blog and allows me to enjoy what I do by not feeling overwhelmed by events.

When determining the best content for your blog what criterion do you keep in mind?

Does it excite me? Is it something I feel passionate about? Do I have a bond with the person who asked me to participate? Do I have the time to write the post? Does it fit with my blog? If the answer is yes to a majority of those questions, I will probably do the event. Having the time and drive are the two most important factors in participation for me.

While everything will not suit your blog, how do you try and support your fellow bloggers who are participating in something worthwhile but not your style?

With FBFF, we all support each other behind the scenes with layouts, HTML, questions. Doing this helps me feel connected even if I myself am not participating. Also, though linking to blogs via my blogroll continues to help fellow bloggers.

(Hopelessly) Lost in Wedding Land

I’M GETTING MARRIED IN 5 MONTHS! Crazy, right? I know. For the past six months, I’ve been in denial about the fact that I have to plan a wedding so when my mom asked me what my wedding colors are, I shrugged my shoulders and said, “I don’t know! Pink? I like pink I guess.” It tailed spun out of control from there: Pink became “dusty rose” with baby pink and ivory with some sort of purple and white flowers. Then I’m ordering wedding invitation samples and postcard save the dates and booking photographers. Who knew wedding planning could be this enjoyable?

I grit my teeth and did my best not to show it, but blogging was hard this week! I usually write my posts at least three days in advance and work on editing them throughout the week. This week? I wrote them the night before, filled with spelling and grammar errors. Why? Because I spent 10 hours of Photoshop trying to make a postcard only to mention it to my friend Alex, who whipped up a beauty in less than an hour.

Links for Wedding Sanity

Design*Sponge, how I love you so! Not an outright wedding website, Design*Sponge will give the brain a breather with a wide variety of content from furniture “before and afters” to Do-it-Yourself projects that can be incorporated into wedding decor.

$2000 Wedding is a must-read for anyone wanting to have a wedding on a budget.

Aside from featuring “blog worthy” weddings, A Practical Wedding features editorials from Wedding Graduates in talking about issues from being a military family to practical books to read.

Overnight Prints is great to order from as it was the only site I found that offered order quantities lower than 100. Some people do have small weddings!

Last, but certainly not least, let’s give it up for our small businesses on Etsy. You can find anything on Etsy that you’ll find at large businesses except for half the price and double the customer service. You can’t beat it!

About Courtney Mirenzi

Courtney Mirenzi is the voice behind Those Graces. She has been named one of the 50 Most Fashionable People in Boston, one of The Boston Globe's Top Bloggers and favorite human of one of her cats. She loves red lipstick, hiking and traveling. (Find out more.)


  1. Congrats on your wedding and good luck with all the planning. I think the key as you found with your friend and the postcards is to ask for help wherever needed. People are delighted to be part of your big day in that way.
    I recently decided to put aside my laptop on Sundays. No blogging or checking emails or social media at all. Yesterday I read a book and saw a movie and did some meditation before meeting up with friends in the evening. Totally unplugged. Just that one day away helps me get recharged (so to speak).

    • I used to not have internet at my house so the whole weekend would be computer free. I’m not sure if I like it more or less now. It’s just different.

  2. “the science behind what we choose to do and what we ignore” – what we ignore often speaks more to who we really are! what a good way to phrase this.

    congrats on the upcoming nuptials! planning on a ‘reasonable’ budget is so easy now, with all of the online resources.

  3. Woohoo, you’ll be a Mrs in 5 months! Congrats!

    Your answers to FBFF are interesting because you talk about how you were on the verge of quitting. We don’t get to hear that perspective very often.

    The Auspicious Life

    • Thank you so much! I’m not changing my name, though, so technically, I’ll still be a Ms. :)

      I’m definitely open about rough patches in blogging. It’s harder than it looks!

  4. Don’t worry, 5 months is a lot of time! I wish you best of luck with the planning. :)

  5. “It was like arriving alone to a party that started, oh, about ten years ago, and saying, “Hey, I’m Courtney, want to be my friend?” ”

    I recall feeling like that too – pretty daunting huh? But we did it and I have found it a very rewarding experience for mustering up the courage to force myself to mingle as I am sure you have too!

    Great answers and wow – you must be getting excited about the wedding!

    • It was definitely hard at first, but then when I realized blogging was about making a community as much as it was having good content it got a lot easier.

      I am excited!

  6. Awesome responses to the FBFF questions and you already know I like the makeup idea you’re doing instead!

    I didn’t know you were a bride to be! Congratulations! I was in the same boat this time last year so I know how crazy things can get. But trust me though, it’s all worth it in the end! :)

  7. Best wishes on your weeding planning. I love the photoshop story because that’s me in a nutshell, hours to do what someone can whip up in an hour. Precious.

    Have a great (and hopefully relaxing?) weekend.
    the Citizen Rosebud

    • Thanks so much! I didn’t like it at first but it’s growing on me. I can fix photos and make them look better, but putting together advertisements is not my specialty.

      Thanks so much–you too!

  8. Thanks for all the wedding resources. I am getting married in September. We are dispensing with most traditions, so so far its been easy peasy and i am totally on top of it so far (touch wood), have venue, cermenony, photographer and lunch all booked and have one of my dresses, and know what the other one will be. But we’ll soon start to think about table deco etc, so all of this will come in handy! My biggest worry is that i am planning on baking the cupcakes we’l have instead of a cake myself! 90 cupcakes a big thing with a tiny oven!

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